5 thoughts why New Years resolutions are difficult to keep & how to change this!

5 thoughts that come up…

1) We make too many
2) Our vision is too narrow
3) We try too hard.
4) We go off too soon
5) We forget the importance of making a decision

1) We make too many

Sometimes it can help to simply make one resolution & focus on developing and nurturing it.
Making many resolutions can be greedy and lead to distraction – come February there is no real strength left in the centre of the resolution for bringing it to completion

2) Our vision is too narrow

‘Always keep your mind on the horizon.’   Words of advice that I was given nearly 15 years ago.
Sometimes when making a resolution it can be too much about ‘me’ & not enough about others – this dilutes the power of the resolution.  We can widen our vision by bringing more people into it by developing our intention.  Thinking:

I am making this resolution for the benefit of all the people throughout the world.

3) We try too hard

Trying hard is encouraged by many people, how about trying too hard.  Over-egging it.
When we grow a plant we need to create suitable conditions for its growth – soil, moisture, attention whilst at the same standing back and enjoying it grow. Same with our resolutions we can view them like seeds growing in our mind.  You can force a seed to grow, simple create the right conditions for its development.

4) We go off too soon

You often see this happen at a long distance running event – a runner will set off at blistering pace at the beginning but have nothing left in the tank for the mid and latter stages of the race.  Not pacing oneself and burning out.  This can happen with a resolution, being very excited in the early weeks and telling everyone but then the intention can fizzle out. So set off with your intention at a reasonable pace to last the duration of your life….

5) We forget the importance of making a decision

Finally there is nothing mystical about accomplish a resolution other than continually making the decision.

If we make the resolution to meditate everyday – we can keep this alive by returning to the decision again and again.

Making the decision to meditate even if days pass and we are not meditating never let go of the decision to meditation.

Written by Adam Dacey
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